Books on dating after death of spouse
I have learned that a surprise death is harder to cope with than a prolonged death.
It would also be important to know that he has had counseling to try to sift through his feelings.
’ Once, when I was bemoaning my single status, someone tried to reassure me that ‘the widowers are now starting to come back on the market’. However, as we get older, people increasingly find themselves single again after the death of a spouse – and, in fact, I ended up dating a lovely man who’d lost his wife to breast cancer four years earlier. It’s dangerous to start making rules about when a widow or widower will be ready for a new relationship, as every situation is unique.
If a loved one is ill for a long time, we sometimes do much of our grieving before they die, and may be ready to move on more quickly.
Published on Jun 25, 2013 An Excerpt from Dating a Widower Read Chapter 1 I’m including this section of the book specifically for any widowers who might be reading it.
Dating again after the death of a spouse can be an awkward experience.
Of course, he still carries the wounds of his heartbreaking loss, but by the time I met him, he seemed genuinely open and ready for new love. It’s natural to worry that you’ll be compared unfavourably to a widow or widower’s late spouse and, sadly, this does sometimes happen.However, dating should not be a therapy session, according to Keogh.If you find yourself needing to have lengthy conversations about your late spouse and your grief, invest in professional help rather than unloading an emotional burden on to your date.It’s harsh to judge someone for finding happiness with a new partner ‘too quickly’, and not trust them to know their own mind.However, it can also take a long time to process grief, and it can be disastrous to start a new relationship when still in the depths of bereavement – although very understandable, when someone is desperately craving the affection and company they’ve lost.